Most people who are obsessed with work are just a reflection of the values that were stuffed down their throats as kids: go to college, make good grades, have a solid resume, get a decent job, work hard, make your boss look good, save your vacation for a “rainy day,” and inch your way up the corporate ladder until you can retire at 65 and live in a beachfront assisted living community where you can get everywhere on a golf cart. So when we meet a girl who has nothing better to talk about than work, we understand. It’s not always her fault. We don’t hate her, but we have to red flag her.
Why? Because talking shop is boring. Even people at business meetings don’t like to talk about business. And here’s the thing: no one really cares about what you do for a living. We’re happy you have a job. We’re happy you can pay the bills. But that’s about all we care about. Unless it’s just a downright incredible job like stunt woman or downright shameful job like Hot Topic cashier, we aren’t interested in knowing about your day-to-day work life. No one’s going to get too excited that you’re a freaking staff accountant.
So don’t be surprised when our eyes glaze over as you try to tell us about that inspirational email you sent to your team, or about that training presentation that you “nailed”, or about that annoying girl in the cube who talks so loud on the phone that you know exactly when she’s scheduling her next Brazilian. First of all, if you were successful, you’d have an office. Second of all, we don’t know, or don’t care, about the people you work with and we’d prefer to keep it that way. So don’t go and invite us to your work happy hours either. We don’t want to be introduced to these people (we like to keep our neutrality in case they piss you off one day and you demand that we hate them) and we don’t care to sit there like idiots as you nerds talk about who you despise in the office, who has a crush on who, what client is being such a jerk, and how amazing your Q3 and Q4 pipelines are looking. And yes we know that if we don’t come we’ll never meet any of your friends. That’s part of the problem.
If you want to get rid of this red flag, then quit spending crazy hours in the office trying to impress some schmuck of a VP who would throw you under the bus to save his own ass in a heart beat. Put in the 9-5 (if you must), get your shit done, be a top performer, yada yada yada, but when the work day is done, go out and have some real life experiences with real people who don’t have a say in your quarterly performance reviews. Give yourself a social life that’s not connected to a job. Give yourself more topics to talk about so that you don’t end up as a crusty old middle manager with 3 cats and a one bedroom town home.Tweet