Consider this: the President of the United States, Barack Obama, has the power to blow the world to smithereens at the push of a button for any reason whatsoever. His power is tremendous. He could say “Hey China, why you being such a bitch?” and poof, they gone. He could say, “Hey dude in Africa who likes to kill people, why you acting a fool?” and peace out, he gone. Whether it’s a country that’s pissing him off, a republican making a personal attack against him, or somebody scuffing up his Pumas, he can pursue any form of punishment he desires. It’s an extreme example, but the point is clear – there is a difference between having power… and abusing power.
For the women who have refused to have sex as a means of punishing their boyfriend or husband, there’s a major question mark around their appreciation for sex, as well as their consideration that they can dictate when, where, and how the act goes down. That’s a scary proposition for guys.
To be clear, we are by no means saying that your guy doesn’t deserve the punishment. We can be the biggest idiots, assholes, losers, dicks, and jerks. In fact he may have done something so bad that all of those words combined can’t effectively represent your feelings. You may have tried everything already in order to address the situation, and you are confident that you’ll “show him” by taking away the thing he wants most. He’ll learn his lesson, right?
Like a mother grounding her son from playing video games, it doesn’t work that way. It may have a short-term effect, at which point you’ll think it worked, but the long-term implications involve a lot of resentment and pent up anger toward you.
Refusing sex in the name of punishment also begs to question whether you really enjoy having sex, or whether you see it as a means to an end – something you just do on occasion because you are in a relationship, and something you do at a specific time later in life to have a baby.
The kind of woman that a guy wants? He wants the one who wouldn’t DARE deny sex… because she knows she would be punishing herself just as much.Tweet